A famous line that has reappeared in my life multiple times by multiple friends. I don’t understand this logic at all. Now I’m not trying to start up old fights, but I was thinking about it today (dangerous…I know) and there are somethings I want to share with the world….
Now the first situation happend about a year ago. My friend did something that was pretty life changing(Had sex for the first time) and didn’t end up telling me until 3 months later after she had told a couple of our other friends already. Her excuse was “I didn’t want to tell you, because I didn’t want you to get mad.” but the funny thing is…how was she expecting me to feel finding out about it 3 months after everybody else? I was hurt and felt like she couldn’t trust me or vice versa, but yet we call each other sisters….
The second time this happened was pretty recent. I have several different groups of friends. There are these two groups that don’t mesh. Which I find stupid because its has to deal with howone girl from each group don’t agree on things. We shall call then Georgia and Cindy (don’t wanna call out my real friends) So on this dreadful night I decided to bring Georgia and Cindy together and try to create peace. (boy was that stupid) So first I was taking Georgia to see The Lorax(good movie) and I knew that Cindy had been wanting to see the movie as well. So I thought perfect! They will see an adorable movie together and laugh then talk it out and all shall be right in world (easier said then done) Cindy declined the movie. Which was fine I told her we should catch up after words and she had agreed and said it would be cool. KNOWING that I was bringing Georgia. So instead of saying something about how it might not be a good idea Cindy still decided to say sure lets do it. Little did I know that Cindy had also invited a couple of our other friends from her group(oh boy). The night was a DISASTER!! Extremely awkward and quite the tension was obvious. Needless to say not one of my best ideas. It only got worse…some nasty things were said on facebook and it blew up into something totally not needed.
So then last night I see that Cindy is now going to see The Lorax with one of our friends so out of spite I posted something about it and she saw it and replied to telling me about how she knew that night was going to be drama but…”I didn’t want to tell you because I didn’t want you to get mad.” Sooo what ended up happening was better? The horrible nasty fighting between my friends that I had to sit and watch because I didn’t want to choose sides was better? Cindy could of told me that maybe it was a bad idea to bring Georgia and I would have been ok with that. Sure of course I probably would have been a little ticked, but I would have cooled down a lot faster than the bomb that blew up that night.
Lesson of the day:
Don’t sugar coat shit! People get mad its a way of life, but not telling someone something in the first place might come back to bite you in the ass later on!
